Ok I guess I'll chime in on this one. Here's what I see from a standpoint of doing diesel performance work on any and all of the above. I've owned nothing but Dodges and wouldn't have it any other way but I will give you unbiased information on each truck.
Dodge
94-98 12 valve-the most reliable diesel engine in a pickup, auto trans are very weak, not room for 6 people unless you buy Tim's crew cab, killer dowel pin is the only thing to watch out for, body is very prone to rust, 5 spd manual has 5th gear nut issues
98.5-02 24 valve-injection pumps are prone to failure-a good high volume lift pump will fix this, auto trans is still weak, same 5th gear but issue with 5 speed, 6 speed available in HO truck in 01 and 02
03-07 5.9 Common Rail-injection pump is no longer an issue, auto trans is a little stronger, 03 trucks were available with a 5 speed with an SO engine, 6 speed in 03 HO and everything 04 and newer, iron NV5600 6 spd from 03-05, G56 aluminum 6 spd from 05-07, quad cab has a small rear seat, mega cab availble in 06 and 07
Ford
94-97 7.3 powerstroke-very reliable engine, has some issues with electronics, auto trans is weak, 5 speed trans is good, some had low first gear, crew cabs are hard to find but are simple and reliable, entended cabs don't offer much room, no intercooler
99-03 7.3 powerstroke-same engine with the addition of intercooler, same auto trans, 5 spd still available in 99, 6 spd available every year, probably the most comforable crew cab and your best option for what you want to do.
03-07 6.0 powerstroke-auto trans is improved, common problems are egr, head gasket, turbo, hpop, injectors. With the right mods you can eliminate most of these problems. Need to delete the egr and stud the heads asap if you buy one. This would be my last choice on the list.
Chevrolet
01-04 LB7 Duramax-Allison trans is better than the rest but not by as much as people say. Common problems with injectors. Very nice ride. Independent front end. Has weak tie rods. Crew cabs are very comfortable. Common problem with hole worn in top of transfer case. Be sure to look for this on any year Duramax. Manual trans is known to give problems.
04.5-06 LLY Duramax-same as above but is very prone to overheating 04.5-05. EGR and VGT turbo was introduced on the LLY
06-07 LBZ Duramax-increase in horsepower, Allison went from 5 spd to 6 spd